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Writer's pictureSaniya Pathare

Break the Mirror and See the Reality: Harmful Effects of the Superiority Complex

Updated: Mar 3, 2023

Holden Caulfield thinks you are a phony. Not just you, your friend, your schoolteacher, that bald man on the station, every single person is a phony; everyone except Holden himself. Holden Caulfield from "Catcher in the Rye" is an example of a person with superiority complex. Holden's desire to reject is an outcome of his inner feelings of rejection and inferiority. So, what exactly is superiority complex, and can it convert one into the isolated, rejected, and rejecting Holden Caulfield?


Do All Holden Caulfields Think We Are Phonies?

A superiority complex is defined as a belief that one’s abilities and achievements are dramatically better than others. It involves various behaviors suggesting feelings of superiority like exaggerations of one’s abilities and achievements, boasts, etc. Alfred Adler first coined the term superiority complex in the 1900s. However, there is still no formal diagnosis. Yet, it is considered useful in describing tendencies to exaggerate one's achievements.


Why Does Holden Caulfield Think We Are Phonies?

Defense Mechanisms

Superiority complex develops around the ages of 5-12. If children's needs for validation are not satisfied during this stage, they develop a sense of inferiority or low self-esteem. The superiority complex is often a compensation/ defense mechanism against these feelings of inferiority. Various factors can lead to this situation-

  1. Inability to fit into society

  2. Fear of failure

  3. Stereotypes and discrimination

  4. Physical defects and disabilities


Social Comparison

Certain psychologists believe that a superiority complex can exist independent of inferiority feelings. Social psychologists offer a social comparison explanation. People often compare themselves with others to fit into groups and thrive. During such comparisons, They experience a self-related bias and a superiority bias, wherein they favor themselves and unconsciously exaggerate their qualities and achievements. This self-enhancement improves self-esteem and provides self-validation.


Signs That You Are a Holden Caulfield

Unrealistic Boasts

Those with a superiority complex exaggerate their achievements. Often these boasts are not backed up by reality. Such people are also vain and place excessive emphasis on their appearance and opinion of self.


The Problem of a False Image

Those with a superiority complex create a false identity of themselves as a supreme or highest authority. This leads to a host of symptoms. They overcontrol their emotions and behaviors to maintain their false image of superiority. They also employ denial and refuse to acknowledge their real self or that their false identity is a mere exaggeration. The need to balance their real self and false identity leads to excessive anxiety and mood swings.


Arbitrary Rightness

A superiority complex leads to a strong need to be ‘right.’ Others’ opinions are disregarded and an “I am in the right, You are in the wrong” attitude is adopted. If others challenge this view, such individuals become aggressive, rude, and accusatory.


A Fortress So Well-Defended

Any challenge to their false identity confuses such individuals. In order to avoid embarrassment, confusion, and conflict, they employ various defenses. They repress their poor self-esteem issues and focus selectively on enhancing their false identity. Rationalization is employed for behaviors contradictory to their beliefs. E.g. if they fail a test, they may claim that the teacher does not have the caliber to comprehend their detailed answers.


What If I Am a Holden Caulfield?

Superiority complex can have various harmful effects-


Esteem Issues

A superiority complex can worsen self-esteem. People soon learn to see the person behind the exaggerations and develop a negative opinion of them. This creates rejection and affects self-esteem.


Hail Mr. Smarty Pants

A superiority complex can also lead to overconfidence. This prevents the achievement of goals and spoils relationships. It also leads to an overestimation of capabilities, making failure more hard-hitting.


The Bad Workman and His Tools

Daevon’s studies indicate that success at work depends mainly on emotional intelligence. A superiority complex reduces emotional intelligence. Since a person creates a false sense of self and is often not self-aware. This affects self-regulation. Those with a superiority complex are often poor leaders. They are dominating and unreceptive to feedback. They treat subordinates as inferiors.


The Fault in Our Stars

Superiority complex affects relationships. People with a superiority complex are often controlling, jealous, insecure, and hypersensitive in relationships. It affects their ability to be compassionate towards others. They have a hard time appreciating others and are bad team players.


The Blame Game

Individuals with a superiority complex cannot accept responsibility for their actions. They often blame others for their flawed decisions. This affects relationships and their work life.


Trouble and His Brother

Superiority complex is often confused with a narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, there are differences. Narcissists have deeper-seated, hard-to-treat problems which result in an absolute lack of empathy. Contrarily, those with a superiority complex are not blatantly unempathetic and are more treatable. Thus, though narcissists have inflated self-worth, everyone with a superiority complex is not a narcissist. However, if a superiority complex is left untreated it can become a precursor of NPD.


Room for Improvement

A superiority complex leads to a false sense of identity. Since such people believe they know everything, they do not grow, learn or live their life to the fullest.


How to Stop Being a Holden Caulfield?

Though a superiority complex can seem harmful, here are some measures which can help you-


Acceptance Is the Key

To overcome the superiority complex, break the false sense of identity. It may be hard at first, but, consciously practice self-reflection and self-awareness. Honestly list your strengths and weaknesses. Identify patterns of all-or-nothing thinking where you view yourself as all bad or good. Practice unconditional self-acceptance, by rating your behavior rather than your whole self as good or bad. Mindful meditation also promotes self-acceptance.

Beyond Comparison

A superiority complex intensifies by comparison. Work on tendencies towards comparison. Journal about specific triggers for insecurity, envy, or the need for compensation. Understand how you are negatively impacted and find ways to manage your triggers. eg. Reducing the use of social media, if posts trigger insecurity. You can practice gratitude. Write three things that you are grateful for daily.

Pride and Prejudice

One judges others because they trigger insecurities. Use reflection and journaling to notice thought patterns. Practice thought-stopping. If you find yourself in a loop of negative thoughts, picture a stop sign and try to change the thought to something positive. Practice empathy by consciously taking the other person’s frame of reference. Reframing can also be useful. This involves attributing a benign cause to other behaviors e.g, consciously saying that the driver who cuts you may be rushing to the hospital rather than just being careless.

Lend a Helping Hand

Altruistic acts improve self-worth and generate compassion for others. They reduce self-focused attention and help one get outside one’s head. Do tangible tasks that are meaningful to yourself and others e.g. joining an animal shelter or helping your sister with a chore etc.

Dial a Professional

Consulting a therapist or counselor can be helpful. They can help unearth the root causes of the superiority complex and reduce feelings of inferiority. They can also help you build self-esteem. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is useful. It involves identifying negative thought patterns and challenging them with more balanced or positive thoughts.


Conclusion

A superiority complex has various negative consequences. Break the mirror and see the reality behind its illusions. Feelings of insecurity, envy, or inferiority can exist. But superiority is not the solution. One cannot be better or worse, because people are not quantities to be compared. One must find one’s place as a unique person who is neither one up nor one down. Being human is being worthy in and of itself!


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